Both of our families are local to where we live and for the past decade we have been splitting time between both sides. This whole decision on where to go stresses me out. I do not wish to alienate either side or seem like I'm choosing one or the other. Over the past 13 Thanksgiving's together (WOW!) we have came up with different compromising scenarios.
Some years we would visit both houses - we were able to visit everyone but ended up cranky and exhausted by the end of the very long day. Sometimes we would alternate, much less exhausting yet we would both miss the other place which put a bit of a damper on our moods. We hosted once or twice with Wil's full family in attendance as well as several other friends. The company was great but cooking for 16 is pretty daunting. The past few years we had split up and attended both - me and the bottom two to my parents, Wil and the top two to his family. It was unconventional but it seemed to work other than the obvious - we weren't together as our own family unit.
We were discussing all of this and noting that while we loved all of our extended family very much, we really wanted to make the day - and the season - specifically about us. Wil, Melissa, Jakob, Abby, Raegan, and John. We both feel incredibly lucky to have this dynamic, energetic, big family, and we want that to be our focus on Thanksgiving.
(Christmas is different - we have long standing traditions that I am not willing to break, nor do any of us want to change them. Our family visits span the course of three days, creating a much appreciated, exhausting but an enjoyable mix of busy and togetherness. Again, different post.)
We made the decision to...STAY HOME for Thanksgiving! The thought of not having to go anywhere is so attractive and alluring. We plan to cook our feathers off and hopefully create some traditions of our own. I personally am looking forward to being able to nap and have all the leftovers.
I pray that our families understand where we are coming from. We don't wish to seem unsociable, as they are very, very important to us. We just want to try something different.
The big kids are kind of sketchy about this thought but it is my entire goal to WOW them. I've been researching fun crafts to do in anticipation and am planning a HUGE menu. I'll probably pick up a new game and a movie. The previous Thanksgivings leave me with big
So what about you? What do you do for Thanksgiving? Do you think we are being selfish and unsociable? Do you budget your time between families? Do you stay home? What menu items can't you live without? Any specific games or movies or traditions that you do every year?